Don't get bitter, get better.

I started going to college a week ago, and I fell in love with everything from day one. The faculty is brilliant, I’ve made some of the most amazing friends, and our seniors are incredibly sweet and helpful. During the course of the week, I also discovered how talented everyone around me is. Everyone is not only academically brilliant, but also exceptional at dancing, singing, acting, or debating. And that made me feel really inadequate and useless. I started wondering if I would ever find my place in college, and find something that I’m actually good at. Every individual is a unique combination of personality traits and qualities. The result of comparing ourselves with others leads us to forget our own unique capabilities and we start wanting to be good at the same things others are good at. But what if I don’t have any unique capability? What if I’m an average human being who can do everything but is good at nothing? If you’ve ever had these thoughts, then you my friend are not alone. An identity crisis during various phases of life is only natural. What matters however, is what you do to solve and overcome this crisis.

So I changed my pattern of thought. I looked at YouTube personality Lilly Singh aka IISuperwomanII. She is great at what she does. She has built a community of caring, supportive and passionate individuals. But she wasn’t born with 9 million subscribers. She started her YouTube journey with the objective of making herself happy. And she works very hard every day to achieve her objective.

I realised that nobody is born talented or brilliant. Each individual works on themselves every day. It could be something as simple as reading a newspaper that adds to their knowledge, or putting on music and dancing their heart out.

So instead of getting bitter, I have decided to get better. It sounds easy to do, but if I think about it in a practical sense, then I need to have a proper strategy. What makes me happy? What areas do I want to improve on? Should I try everything, or choose an area of specialisation? These are some of the questions I need to ask myself and find answers to. But most importantly, I need internal motivation. I need to maintain a positive outlook that helps me learn from failures, rather than let them defeat me. You can join me on this journey as I try to find clarity amidst constant confusion. Or you can begin your own journey of self-discovery and progress. But most importantly, remember to enjoy the process!